Is Your Relationship “Personal” or “Working”?

In a world where our lives are consumed daily with task lists, agendas, appointments, meetings and so much more, it becomes rather easy to get caught up in a life of busyness. We become primarily focused on getting things done and getting as much stuff done as we can. I can attest that I am guilty in this area. We strive to work hard, accomplish goals and build success in our lives, but in doing so, we sometimes neglect something very important… our Relationships… and as a result, sadly, our “personal” relationships become “working” relationships.

Family relationships: As mothers, we are that most important piece that holds our family puzzle together. We’re busy making dinner, ironing clothes, packing school lunches, taking our kids to school and to extra curricular activities: all things that need to be done and should be done. However, when was the last time we actually stopped and spent personal time with our kids or our spouses, one on one…? Not doing anything, but just taking the time to listen to them, to play with them, to read with them, to give them knowledge and insight and to learn about the individuals they are becoming? In the case of our spouses, do we still talk and get to know one another and not just talk about the kids? Do we have a personal relationship with our family or a working relationship?

Spiritual relationships: We may be involved in some type of ministry, whether local or abroad where we find ourselves busy doing the work of the Kingdom. Whether we’re a preacher, an usher/greeter at our local church, serving on a dance or worship team, playing the keyboard/organ every Sunday, baking for the church picnic, visiting or comforting the sick and the list goes on (there’s so much to do for the Kingdom of God). This is all well and commanded, and our work will be rewarded, however, when was the list time we actually took time to spend in devotion? Do we quiet our spirits on a daily basis to hear what the Holy Spirit may be saying to us that day? Do we spend enough time in God’s word? We get so caught up, as Martha did, doing things for Christ, that we forget to be like Mary and actually spend time with Him.

Luke 10:40-42  ” But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” ”

Challenge: Spend some personal time today with your kids, ask them questions, read to them, listen to them and spend time today in a quiet place, reading God’s word and praying to Him. Let’s commit to not just have working relationships but a personal one.